I'm old school, if you must know. I believe that if there are sad endings, there are happy ones. That there is both a right and a wrong path. God gave us free will that although He has destined us for greatness we can choose to reject it.
In light of the recent news of my sister's upcoming wedding, I have been on my knees asking God to give her wisdom to know if this is His will for her. Nothing could be more frustrating than getting into something you were not meant to be getting into in the first place. It's like trying to fit a square peg into a circular hole. Somehow, you'll make it work but not without undue discomfort. I want nothing less for her than a life filled with wonderful memories. Not necessarily one that's free of obstacles, which is inevitable, but one that's filled with more joy than pain, less tears, more laughter. This doesn't mean that I don't like the man she has chosen to marry. Quite the contrary because I find her soon-to-be husband quite endearing and I believe I could trust him with my sister's life. All I'm saying is I want them both to be sure (of the timing and everything) because marriage is not something you decide to get into one day and quit the next. It's a lifetime commitment to be with one person and that person alone, through hell or high water. A commitment that I myself am very hesitant to make.
A lot of people have asked me when I would tie the knot with the man of my dreams. And to be honest, I don't know. I don't wake up every morning and say, "Today, I'm going to meet my future husband and we will get married in August." Who does that? Well, I may have said it once or twice. LOL. The point is, I don't hold the timeline to my life. Sure I could go ahead and marry that guy who has proposed to marry me at least twice or that other one who said God told him we were meant for each other (which is kind of odd because I didn't get the same memo that he got). But then doing so would be utterly irresponsible and not to mention preposterous. Who gets married on a whim? Better yet, who gets married simply to check an item off a "bucket list"? So no, I don't have a ready answer to this marriage question. If people want to hear an interesting story, they should be asking if I've ever been in love. Hahaha!
My sister is definitely marrying for love. That I can say for sure. And I'm so happy that she has found something that only a few people find in a lifetime. I could almost picture her wedding day. The hushed tones as she walks down the aisle, like an angel floating in a sea of white and silver, approaching the altar where her betrothed stands watching her with tears streaming down his face. Sigh. I myself would probably be needing more than one box of tissue.
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