Who Wins?

Did I not get the memo? Is it now acceptable to curse someone and call them names on a public forum? Have social norms changed?

In my other blog, I posted my thoughts on the imminent closure of Boracay Island. I expected some dissenters, of course. An amicable exchange of opposing views is good (even encouraged) in a democracy or civilized society. But I didn’t expect to be called names. This is not new to me, but it still stings a little when attacks get too personal and way out of line. In the interest of peace and taking the moral high ground, I conceded my case and deleted my post. But I’m still shaking. 

The headstrong and stubborn 20-year-old version of myself would never have buckled and would scoff at how quickly I rested my case. It’s not that I’m less inclined to win and prove my point, but rather, I have learned when to get out of a battle that’s not worth fighting. What would I have gained had I engaged him further? Would I be better for it? Would he? Would it change the course of events and stop the inevitable? The only thing I would’ve gotten out of drawing out that entire ordeal was a bitter enemy. Who needs that?

Proving yourself right isn’t always the best conclusion. In poker, knowing when to fold saves you a lot of regret. We would do well to apply that in real world situations.

Boracay, I wish you well. I hope to see you again soon.